Autumn’s Coming

Gap jumper (£50) and Topman shirt (£30)

Gap jumper (£50) and Topman shirt (£30)

It’s still so warm outside, but I’m desperate for it to start getting colder.  I spent the afternoon clearing out my wardrobe, putting my summer stuff away, and preparing for the cold to come.  Still hasn’t happened, though – I walked to work in t-shirt and jeans today and I was still too hot.  But when it does, I’ll be ready.

I actually thought I needed a whole wardrobe refresh.  I was ready to burn every item of clothing I owned and start again from scratch.  It turns out all I needed to do was clear out the old and the unworn.  The t-shirts I kept for weird sentimental reasons; the white shirts that were no longer white; the baggy jeans that honestly weren’t coming back in to fashion.  A bin bag later and it turns out I don’t need to burn everything.  And I don’t need to go shopping, which is a shame…

Still, before I did all this, me and the husband had actually popped in to town – he had some Selfridges vouchers to spend and I went along for the ride.  I wasn’t planning on buying anything, honest, but a turquoise cable-knit in Gap caught my eye first, and then a heavy cotton burgundy shirt at the Topman concession in Selfridges.  I resisted for as long as could, but five minutes later the shirt was in a shiny yellow bag (the Selfridges bag makes everything feel nicer) and on the way out we made a stop off at Gap to pick up the jumper.  Gap actually had 30% of the jumper so, you know, it was a sign.

They’ve been folded and added to my newly cleared-out wardrobe, ready to wear.  All I need now is some cold weather.

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The Date (a work of friction)

I was rummaging around my hard drive this morning – I should really get out of the house more – and found this little bit of writing from a few years ago. It must be quite old, because there’s no reference to Twitter or iPhones. And I’m pretty sure the club they go to closed about 5 years ago…

It’s not based on anything real, and all similarities to reality are a coincidence. Enjoy.

THE DATE

Fuck, fuck, fuck. The little green winking clock on the cooker was telling me I should have left eleven minutes ago. Actually, it was saying I should have left fourteen minutes ago, but it was three minutes fast. It was three minutes fast because I had no idea how to change it, and it was winking at me because it had been winking ever since I’d tried to change it two months ago. I’m sure the knowledge required was contained within the manual, but it had never bothered me before. But now it was taunting me. Winking in a knowing way. The shine of the bean-juice flecked hob mocking me.

I contemplated looking for the manual again, wondering where it was that I kept all the important documentation that came with the house. It was in the bedroom, of that I was pretty sure. Or in the lounge, in that faux-leather (fleather? Leatherique?) box. Wink – twelve minutes. Or, rather, fifteen. Come on, get your act together.

I walked from the kitchen back to the bedroom. The contents of my wardrobe were displayed meaningfully on the bed / floor area. I was on my third iteration of essentially the same outfit already. Jeans, t-shirt, cardigan, Converse. I was nothing if not reliable. Except when it came to time-keeping, obviously. I cast my mind back to the previous weekend when I was in the club – had I been wearing this exact same outfit? Would anyone remember? Do I remember?

My mobile click-clicked a text. It was from him – “running five minutes late, soz x”. Fine.He was late too. Although, if he was running five late, and I was already twelve late, he would still be waiting for me for seven minutes. See, that GCSE maths did come in handy after all.Seven minutes was a fine amount of time to wait. And if you’re willing to wait seven, why not ten? I stripped off my top half, and threw the t-shirt into the washing basket where I’d dug it out five minutes previously. A quick squirt of Fabreze and it was as good as new. Kind of. A squirt of aftershave under each armpit had been the cherry on the BO cake.

I pulled on another t-shirt. Was this the one I’d put on first of all? Followed by the grey cardigan which , despite for the past couple of years being fine for young folk to wear, had gradually trickled back into old-man fashion. My dad had one. Not great news.

I stepped back into the lounge to pick up phone, fags, Oyster card, change, lighter, cash, keys and chewing gum. Where the fuck was I supposed to put all this? I refused to take a bag with me on a date. Or any night out. I am NOT a woman. And it was too warm for a jacket. I stuffed everything into my jeans and made for the door. But the sound of of babies falling over and badly canned laughter caught my attention and I found myself hypnotised by You’ve Been Framed as one kid smashed his head into a birthday cake.

Why are the parents filming this other kid sitting peacefully in his high-chair? Do they know he has an inner ear infection and is about to topple over any moment? Will the £250 paid for every clip be enough to cover putting wheelchair access into the house when crippled little Bobby can’t get back up? Still, was funny though wasn’t it.

Another mobile-made clickety click brought me back to reality, and into a state of time-panic. I read the text on the way out of the door. Aah, it was Pete. “Good luck on the date babes. In the Brewers if it all goes tits up.” Good old Pete. Always there. Meaning always there for me. And, more literally, always there in the Brewers – gay South London’s answer to the Queen Vic. It’s shit, but when there’s literally no where else to go…

So my plan B was in place, should plan A not go to, erm, plan. But I had to get to plan A first. The Victoria line was quicker. And the walk to the tube took the exact amount of time it took me to smoke a cigarette. It was like baby Jesus was smiling down on me, blowing smoke rings.

I arrived at the tube without incident. My mind had been crammed full for the walk – inhale, exhale, what would I say when I arrived? Tap the ash, am I wearing the right outfit? Flick the butt, do I go in for a kiss when I get there? Check trainers for dog poo – old habit. I once walked a rancid dollop through a mate’s parent’s house and all over the cream carpet. But I’m sure the Underground people wouldn’t notice another foul smelling stain on the floor, would they?

Summer had been creeping in, and the days were unpleasantly hot, with the nights feeling pleasantly cool. Still, in keeping with logic, the underground tunnels managed to stay about 20 degrees hotter than the outside temperature. Thankfully, my deodorant kept the old under-pits dry, and I could dab away the excess beading on my forehead. If I was a dainty lady, I might say that I’m ‘glowing’. I’m not a dainty lady. I was fucking drenched. I caught my reflection in the curved window opposite. It made my head look about four feet long and two inches thick. I looked terrible. Nothing I could do about it now.

I fought my way off the train at Oxford Circus. The corridors and escalators were crammed with people and their bags. I hadn’t bought anything new for ages and hated everyone who’d splurged. Apart from that girl walking towards me who looked like she needed to go shopping more than I did – what was she wearing? Was that trendy nowadays? Did I just say trendy? Am I that old? I’m not that old, by the way. Well, I guess that depends who you ask. I’m 29-years-old. 30 later in the year and I’m kind of not bothered by it. Lots of people go a bit mental, write lists of things they must achieve but possibly never will. I’m constantly disappointing myself so have no need to write a list to feel bad. I’ll be turning 30 in the same manner I turned 20 – drunk.

I hit street level and, thank god, a cool breeze hit me. I lit another cigarette – I know, I know, but I was nervous – and turned towards Soho. Another window offered my reflection, this time in a clothes shop that was closing up for the night. It was a massive improvement – I looked lean and my hair looked cool. My head looked almost normal again. Still, this window might be equally warped and I could still be freakishly odd-looking. Maybe there’ll be another mirror on the way. I checked my watch. Still running late. Eek. My lateness stressed me out. Other people’s lateness makes me livid with a rage so purple and black I want to snap bones and crush skulls and stamp on kittens and clench my fists and shake them at the sky screaming “WHY???” Still it doesn’t stop me from being late for almost everything. Yeah, I’m a hypocrite.

Anyway, I’d arrived and surprised even myself by not being as late as I’d thought. 12 minutes, to be precise. Which meant he would have been here for 7 minutes. I crushed the cigarette under my foot, popped a mint in my mouth, ruffled my hair – but not too much – and walked in.

The bar was already busy. More shopping bags. Boys in skinny jeans, checked shirts and skinnier than was necessary ties as far as the eye could see. Which wasn’t very far – it was a small bar. I let my slightly short-sighted eyes take in the bar hoping for a glimpse of the date, when suddenly it dawned on me. Would I recognise him when I saw him? How would I know if I’d seen him if I couldn’t remember what he looked like? I was incredibly drunk when we’d met the week before. Incredibly drunk. Offensively so. Well, not so offensively that he didn’t want to kiss me at the time, or even see me again this weekend.But maybe he was also incredibly drunk. In fact, I knew he was incredible drunk – we’d had three shots of sambucca together. And two Jack Daniel’s (with ginger ale – I’m no purist). Even if he hadn’t been drinking all night, which I’m pretty sure he had, he would have been drunk by then. Maybe he wouldn’t recognise me? We could both be stood in the bar, right next to each other, waiting for each other, standing RIGHT NEXT TO EACH OTHER, and not know. That would be awful. I decided to focus on looking for people who looked like they were looking for people. Still no one. But maybe he wasn’t looking for me – why would he if he didn’t know who to look for? Oh God. Maybe if I rang him, he would have to pick up his phone. I would see him answer his phone. Yes. Call him.

I pulled the phone from my pocket just as it vibrated and tick-tocked again. It was him. Shit. Had he seen me looking right through him? He doesn’t know I’m short-sighted. I could say I was almost blind. Yes, that was my excuse. “Dead sorry – train’s delayed. Be there in 10.” Yes! Thank the lord. I was saved. I ordered a beer – bottled, not draught. I can’t drink pints. Too gassy. And, also, there was an incident when I was 19 after seven pints of wife beater, a plate of beans on toast and my parents. It still makes me shudder now. I took the drink outside, found a table near the door, sat down and lit a cigarette. And relax…
I would normally try and cut down the ciggie intake on a first date. I say that like I’ve been on loads of them. I haven’t. But I think it’s nice to make a good first impression. But as we’d already snogged, been drunk, and chain-smoked half a dozen cigarettes with each other last time we met, I kind of thought I had a green light to be seen smoking on arrival.Besides, it looked cool and all my friends did it.

About 6 minutes later I was concentrating on grinding the end of my cigarette into the pavement – there were no ashtrays, sorry – when a pair of baby blue Converse appeared next to mine, and the owner asked for a light. I started digging in my pocket and looked up – it was him. Thank god – I recognised him. And he was cute. Handsome. Sod it, he was hot. What a fucking relief. I stood up and he took half a step back. Not a full step, though, and I ended up in much closer proximity to him than I’d anticipated. Flashes of us kissing like school kids on the dance floor the previous weekend flashed through my mind and I immediately became sheepish. Not the most attractive thing to become. I sort of leaned forward, half for a hug, partly for a kiss, maybe for a cheek brush and he came in towards me at an awkward angle and some horrible coagulation of all three possibilities occurred. We both blushed.

“Hi.” That was me. Excellent opening gambit. I could vaguely remember the previous weekend. We were creased up most of the evening. We were hilarious. We were on fire.Now? Now all I could do was squeak out “hi”.

“Hi.” That was him. This situation needed rescuing. Quickly. I did the only thing I knew.

“Shall we get a drink?” He smiled. Great smile. Lovely teeth. “Come on then. My round.”

We walked in. I weaved my way through the crowd of trendy boys, glancing behind me to make sure he was still there. Every time I turned back he flashed a smile at me. He was nice. Nice eyes. Lovely skin. I totally fancied him. At the bar, I arched up onto my tip toes – I’m only short – and gave my best smile to the harassed barmaid.“Jack Daniels and ginger ale and a…” My mind went blank. What had he been drinking last week? We had a bit of everything. I turned back.

“I’ll have the same as you.”

That’s it. I was in love. “Two Jack and ginger please.”

The bar was loud, so we had to get close to hear each other. The talk flowed as easily as the drinks did, and I remembered why we’d had so much fun the weekend before. He touched my shoulder a couple of times, and I kept finding myself just staring at him, smiling, as he recounted some story from a drunken night long ago. Every couple of drinks, we’d pop outside for a cigarette and to cool down away from the sweaty throng, and talk about the collection of freaks, weirdos and wonderful folk who streamed past us on the street. He was funny – really funny. And he thought I was funny too. At least, he had the decency to laugh at my crap jokes.

The sun finally went down behind the Soho pubs and knocking shops (how quaint) and the sky went that nice midnight blue colour that only happens around ten o’clock. So why did I call it midnight blue? Ten o’clock blue. I checked my watch and realised that my vision was a little hazy. In a nice way though. and because I’m short sighted my vision’s always a little bit hazy anyway. But this was more of a mildly unfocused daze.

“Do you want to head somewhere else?”

“Yes please.” He was very polite.

After we necked the last of our drinks, he took me by surprise by taking me by the hand and pulled me through the crowd to the door. Holding hands is odd. It kind of makes you feel all goofy and weird, and warm and hyper-aware of just how clammy your palms are all at the same time. I think I went a bit red. I felt like all the people in the bar were looking at us. It wasn’t a gay bar, and I’m sure some of the guys would have rolled their eyes. I’m sure a couple of girls made “aren’t they sweet” faces at us. I’m sure I smiled a bit sheepishly.

Outside, the streets were now packed with quasi-, semi- and totally drunk revellers. In this part of London, they were mostly gay men, but still gangs of women tottered around in ludicrous heels and an angry pissed bloke from out of town hurled inappropriate abuse at a drag queen, unaware that he was outnumbered by several thousand to one. The drag queen just hurled back some caustic abuse, raising a laugh from a gang – a pack? Pride? – of bears drinking pints of cider outside one of the oldest establishments in the area. That soon shut him up.

By this point we’d had out fair share of booze, and the night started taking on that kind of mystical quality that the best drunken nights do. It became just a loud noise of sound and talking and lights and money changing hands over bars. A cocktail bar was the first port of call. It was hideously expensive, but maybe we were both trying to show off a little bit.There was definitely at least one mojito, and something that was set on fire by the barman before we drank them. I got a severely watery mouth instantly and thought I was going to puke. Thankfully I managed to swallow it back and suggested popping outside for a cigarette.

It was then that we saw the first shocking thing that night.

“Oh my God…”

“What?” I was checking my hair in the window. I turned round to see what he was looking at.

“They’re doing two for one cocktails in that bar that used to be Element.” He was stood with a flyer in his hand. The insanely skinny boy in a luminous green, cropped t-shirt was handing them out as he minced down the street.

“The one with the nice upstairs-y bit?”

“Yeah.” He passed me the flyer and looked right at me. “Shall we go?” He had a very mischievous look about him. It was pretty hard to say no. So I didn’t.

Walking through Soho was always an… experience. Lots to see. More to avoid. We cut through an alley where too-old hookers in doorways called out to us. I politely declined, and he just waved to them and put his arm around my shoulders. He was obviously drunk. I mean, two public displays of affection the past hour? Maybe he just fancied me. Actually, he was drunk. He tripped over his foot and we went stumbling towards a shop window. It was the bookstore that had a huge neon sign in the doorway saying “GAY VIDEOS AND BOOKS DOWNSTAIRS”. There was a helpful flashing arrow, too.

I don’t know what I was thinking. Maybe I was just trying to give my body an extra few minutes to catch up before sinking more booze in the next bar. “Come on – let’s go in.”

“In there?”

“Yeah – I’ve never been in!”

“Whatever!” He punched my arm and laughed. “This is where you get all your dirty videos.” I shot him my most winning smile. Which, to be honest, most probably looks like a constipated grimace. But it worked. We went in. Straight to the basement. And honestly, I’ve never been in there before.

Another point in his favour – he was really immature. Excellent. We were like giggling schoolgirls down there. The man behind the counter didn’t appreciate it. The nervy mac-wearing guys perusing the books didn’t much like it either. We straightened our faces as much as we could and looked round the shelves.

I’d made my way round from the DVDs to the books – I was looking at some very explicit comic books. Is it wrong to fancy a comic book character? Possibly. Although I had a crush on Aladdin when I was younger. I was trying to work out just how wrong it was when he came over.

“Is it too early in the date to suggest this for later?” He handed me a DVD. ‘Pissy Pants 3’. I snorted so hard I thought I was going to hurt my brain. He cracked up and I couldn’t keep noise from escaping. I grabbed the DVD from his hand and put it back on the shelf.

“Come on,” I nodded over in the direct of the miserable looking queen behind the counter. “I think they hate us in here.”

We ran up the stairs together. We didn’t make a purchase.

The bar that used to be Element, and was then something else. Was now something else entirely. Well, they’d redecorated. To be honest, neither of us could remember what it looked like before this. Or before that. But they did make great cocktails. Very great. Very great? I was drunk.

“Very great? How drunk are you?”

“I’m not that bad!” I lied a bit. “I’m just a bit giddy. How’s yours?”

He held up his glass – it was almost empty so I guessed that he was impressed. “Really nice. And half price! Does that mean we can have another two?”

“I think that’s exactly what it mean. I’ll get them.” We’d been sat on an awkwardly straight-backed sofa shaped like a huge pair of lips. My knees cracked when I stood up – almost 30 – and II weaved through the crowd of overly-perfumed men laughing, joking and flirting outrageously with each other. A couple of them made eyes at me. Well, I think they did. I’m pretty terrible at working out when someone’s flirting with me or when they’re just trying to see what’s going on behind me. I played it safe and kept a mildly inane grin on my face.

I reached the bar and squeezed in between all the taller people. Which means I squeezed in between everyone.

Much to the disappointment of everyone around me, I caught the barman’s eye easily and ordered two drinks. I had a purple coloured thing. And I bought him something made with gin and loads of fruit. I paid and left the two pound coin as a tip. I was feeling flush. I’d regret it when it got to the end of the month and I was living on non-brand beans and toast. Cheap white toast. With loads of butter. Actually, it doesn’t sound too bad. He could keep the two pounds.

I bustled back through the crowd, but when I turned into the little back bit there was a man sat on n my half of the lips and it wasn’t me. I held back for a second. Tried to work out what my chances might be if I had to defend my date’s honour. Or if my date chose this new suitor over me, who would win in a three-way fight between us all. Or if I could just neck both drinks, subtly grab my coat and fuck off. Was this guy better looking than me? I couldn’t really tell. They were on the edge of my poor vision. He looked okay though. Nice shirt, actually. I was debating escape strategies when my date looked in my direction. Then he smiled. Then he pointed. And the other guy looked. He sort of smiled. Said something. Got up. Walked towards me and smiled properly this time.“Lucky boy.” He said.

“Him, or me?” I said.

He winked at me and walked on by. I took my seat and handed him a drink. He flashed another toothy white grin. “I think he was trying to chat me up.”

“I think he was. Did he succeed?”

“Does it look like he succeeded?”

“Not just yet.”

“Not just ever – I told him I was with someone.” More toothy grinning.

I looked around the room. “Really? You are? Who?” I was still looking around the room when the bottom lip of the sofa sank beneath me a little. Then a hand was on my knee. I turned.His face was so close it took me by surprise, but before even I had chance to register the surprise on my face he planted both his lips on mine. Lips, on lips, on lips. It was closed mouth. No rancid tonguing each other on the tacky lip sofa. Not just yet. Maybe a couple more cocktails. But, for now, closed lips. Strong. He put his hand behind my head ever so gently. He pulled away just as my lips turned up into a smile. He looked right at me with his big brown eyes and said, “I’m with you.”

Fuck. I thought I was going to die.

“Thought so.” I was a bit shocked still and couldn’t think of anything massively witty to say in return. This was a good date.

Two more cocktails in and the bar was rammed. We’d both been to the toilet twice – too much information? And had another couple of cigarettes on the pavement outside. I’d been asked if I had a lighter twice. I lit both cigarettes but kept hold of my lighter. It was an heirloom – a tiny bic that I’d managed to keep hold of for nearly three weeks. That must be some sort of record? If everyone did that, lighter companies around the world would go broke. It was nearly Cinderella time and that meant it was make or break. Questions needed answering.

If we left now, we could make a club and not have to queue too much. Or we stay for a couple more and call it a night at one o’clock. But then that meant the very awkward ‘your house or my house’ chat. That’s if it was heading that way. I was pretty sure it was heading that way. But I fancied a drink. And a dance. Oh, God I was drunk if I was ready for dancing.

Over the noise, I shifted my weight forward on the lips – the sofa ones, not his.
“Do you fancy another drink? Or…”

“Or what?”

“Well, I was wondering if maybe you fancied a dance?”

We’d met the previous week in a club and I had distinct memories of dancing. Well, I say distinct. Fuzzy. But had some form of memory of some form of dancing. And lots and lots of embarrassing kissing.

“A dance?” He arched an eyebrow in a way that would have made most people look like a twat, but made him look cuter than normal. “I guess that means we won’t be having that awkward ‘who’s house will we go to’ chat for a while?”
“A couple ore hours maybe? Dance some of this booze out?”

“You mean sweat it out?”

I smiled. “Well?”

He emptied his drink. “Where do you want to go?” That smile again.

Something loud was playing. Very, very loudly. The club was rammed and boiling hot. It was a dingy basement in a dingy back alley in a dingy part of town. The walls were literally sweating. All the people were sweating. I felt like I was sweating more than both the walls and all the other people. Clamminess was not appealing in a potential new suitor. But, then again, he was perspiring pretty heavily and I didn’t seem to mind. By this point in the evening, we were both pretty hammered.

We’d arrived an hour earlier maybe. The queue was horrendous, but I knew one of the guys on the door so I managed to hopefully score a cool point or two. Or maybe it just looked like I went to the same club all the time. Either way, skipping past that queue always feels nice – literally everyone hated us. Thankfully, we were too drunk to notice. We went downstairs and Britney was screaming out of the PA system. Well, it wasn’t her. It was one of her records. We squeezed in by the bar. There was only just about enough space for the two of us. We were having to stand very close. I was leaning over the bar trying to catch one of the staff’s eyes. They appeared to be more interested in dancing than serving. I looked back and rolled my eyes. He just smiled and stuck his tongue out. I felt his hand move onto my back and I couldn’t help but grin. He leaned in over the bar with me, and together we dared to stare at the staff until one of them finally came over.

“Two Jack Daniels and ginger ale.” I was almost shouting over the music.

“And two sambuccas!” He actually was shouting over the music. But I liked what he had to shout.

“And two sambuccas as well please.” Manners cost nothing. Sambucca costs £3.50 a shot.

The drinks were with us, before Britney had finished her synth-wailing. We cheers-ed the plastic shot glasses, spilling tiny amounts of sambucca on the floor – still, the less I had to actually drink the better. This stuff could go one of two ways: it could go down and stay down. Or it could go down, decide to doesn’t like it there too much and pop back up to say hello before you made it away from the bar area. I know. Its happened to a friend of mine. Oh, alright, and to me. Twice. In one night. It takes me a while to learn from my mistakes.

Thankfully the aniseed rancidness slipped down quite easily. ‘Smoking ruins your taste buds”, my mum always used to say to me. How right she was. And in this instance I was massively thankful. So far I’d managed to keep cool on the date. I mean, I was insanely drunk, so ‘The Rules’ would have disapproved. But I hadn’t totally fucked it all up yet. Then again, it was only, what? Two in the morning? There was still plenty of time for all that.

About four seconds later the sambucca hit me like an alcohol soaked sledgehammer in the face. Does that even make sense? Who cares – I was shit-faced. So I had nothing to lose. I necked my Jack Daniels and ginger, dropped the plastic it came in on the floor (I refuse to call a plastic glass. A ‘plastic glass’. It makes no sense), grabbed his belt with and dragged him over to me. I guess in my head I was rocking some smooth moves, or some such thing. Like I was Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing grabbing Jennifer Gray for that first, sexy dance. I imagine I came across as a lecherous tramp with cross-eyes and greasy hair. Thankfully (luckily?), my prey had matched me all night drink for drink so succumbed to my manly…er, manliness and came in for the kiss. Phew. And that wasn’t just me sighing. I imagine everyone else in the club let out a collective sigh of relief when they saw that the two most pissed people in there had found their soul mates for the evening and wouldn’t be bothering them.

We stumbled around for bit, snogging like school kids doing it for a dare behind the bike sheds. We bumped in to some angry lesbians (they’re not all angry, just this particular group) who shoved us out of the way with their burly darts-throwing arms. We tried a bit of dancing, but to be honest neither of us were very capable. And then he leaned in to me and – I want to say whispered, but it was unbearably loud in there – shouted into my ear, “DO YOU WANT TO GET OUT OF HERE?”

“YES PLEASE!”

So we left. As soon as the cool air outside hit my face, I felt instantly more drunk. But it was still a happy drunk. My feet seemed to be especially happy, and were giddily going in whichever direction tickled their fancy. He seemed to be following in my crazy footsteps, so the two of us went on a little late night / early morning romantic stumble. We made our way out of the centre of town and headed south. Well, we were pretty sure we were heading south. If someone had spun us around a couple of times we could have been heading in any direction whatsoever.

I wasn’t going to mention what happened next. It’s a bit embarrassing. I mean, more than that. It’s dirty. Really dirty. I’m ashamed, but if I’m going to tell the story then I have to be honest. Admitting it will be perhaps help me get over it anyway. Here goes. We turned on to Cambridge Circus and saw our opportunity. It was late, we were drunk and it was there – staring at us in the face. Hot, the steam rising, the smell was awful but intoxicating. He saw us staring at him, indecisive.

“Hot dog, lads?”

That’s all it took. We were so easy, but God, it was good. Smiling, with dog juice and ketchup running down our chins, we carried on our merry way.

The alcohol had started wearing off, but there was an awful lot of it still inside, sloshing around, making us giddy. We threw caution to wind and held hands through the town. We talked utter nonsense while groups of screaming girls pin-balled down the streets, drunken guys hurled abuse at passing taxis, and passing taxis blissfully ignored gaggles of tourists. We weaved through the carnage of London on a Saturday night and after some indeterminate amount of time, found ourselves crossing the river and walking along the South Bank. We walked down towards the London Eye, blue fairy lights twinkling in the trees, occasionally passing another pissed couple, who either smiled back, or were too busy attempting to eat each other’s faces to care that we were giggling at them.

Before we reached the wheel, my feet started to ache – which either meant that my trainers had turned into high heels during the night, or the numbing affect of the booze was coming to an end. All that dancing and walking had taken it’s toll. “Shall we sit?” I used the last of my energy and bounded over to a bench, vaulted over in a display of athletic ability that, looking back on it, even impressed me. He smiled and moseyed over, taking the easier option and circumnavigate the bench and took a seat next to me.

We sat for a minute, or maybe three, just staring out at the buildings across the water. My hands were resting by my sides, and I willed him to make a grab for one of them. I didn’t have to wait too long. His fingers edge across the bench and found mine. I looked straight ahead, my eyes half-closed, but my smile wide.

“What are we going to do now?”

I looked across at him, but he was still staring straight ahead. I turned back to the view “I dunno.” I smiled again.

“To late to go to another club.” I looked at my watch. It was nearly 4 in the morning.

“Yup. Too late to stay out.” Out of the corner of my eye, I could see the corners of his mouth creep into a smile as I spoke.

On The Hunt…

I’m being  a grown-up.  I’m buying a house.  Well, I say a house, it’ll be a flat.  And I say buying, but I’m really just attempting to buy. The bank has offered us a mortgage, we have a bit of a deposit saved up, and we’ve been searching for a few weeks and you know what? It’s fucking awful.  The London property market is just ridiculous.  And it’s making looking for a flat ridiculous too.  I hate it.

Here’s why:

Estate Agents
It’s an age-old complaint, I know.  And before I became a would-be-buyer, I always thought estate agents were given a rough ride.  And I thought that, when it came to buying a house and handing them hundreds of thousands of pounds – they’d be clambering over each other to help us.

No.

They’re twats.  And worse – useless twats.  Because me and the fella have to work all week, we only really have Saturdays to look at flats.  I imagine a lot of people a in a  similar position.  This seems to come as a surprise to estate agents who run a skeleton staff at the weekend.  We’ve stood in estate agent’s offices in a queue of ten couples waiting for someone to take our details.  We WANT to give you money.  That’s why we’re here.  Please help us give it to you.

When we weren’t queuing, we’d find ourselves talking to someone from lettings – “All the sales guys are out at the moment, but I can take your details.”  Really?  The sales guys are busy in one of the biggest, fastest growing, expensive property markets in the world?  Hire more staff.

And then when there is someone to see you, 90% of the time – this no exaggeration – you get to sit down and speak to someone who only works on Saturday.  Now, good for them – they might have another job in the week, be a single parent or whatever, but they know fuck all about the property they’re selling.  In fact, the property market is moving so quickly that they often don’t have any clue what properties are available.  One of them actually just went onto their Prime Location page.  We can fucking do that ourselves!  You don’t hire a plumber and expect themto Google “how to fix a tap”, you useless fart.

But the worst – the worst – example of Saturday Shittiness was the wide boy sales manager who actually said, “I’ll just pass you over to my Saturday girl.” like it was the fucking 50s!  Awesome.  So then we get sat opposite said girl, whose Superdrug nail extensions were so long, it stopped her from being able to use a keyboard properly.  She misspelled both our names, TWICE.  And with no capital letters.  And couldn’t work out how to write an email address.  And asked how many 7s my phone number had.  How many?  Like, at the beginning of the number?  In total?  What?

Open Days
Not once in the last few weeks have me and the husband had a private viewing of a property.  Every single one has been an “Open Day”.  For the first one, I was under the mistaken impression that “day” meant “all day”.  It doesn’t.  It means “an hour, tops.”  And in that open hour do you know how many people see these flat?  Five?  Ten?  Nah.  60.  60 couples, all rolling their eyes at each other as they look at a pokey one bed in Crystal Palace, with one estate agent in their baggy Next suit rubbing their grubby hands with glee.  They don’t have time to answer questions about the flat -and you know why?  Because they don’t give a shit.  Someone’ll buy the fucking thing no matter how grim / expensive it is.

Grim Flats
Speaking of the grim = expensive equation. Most flats we’ve seen are gross.  I realise I don’t have a million pounds to spend, but even with the relatively small budget we have, it’s still a few hundred thousand pounds.  If you want someone to spend a quarter of a million on something, the least you could do is tidy the place up.  We saw a flat in Forest Hill not too long ago that was in a shared, purpose built block.  “Purpose built” is code for ex-Council, by the way.  Through the main door for he building an incredible smell hit us in the face like a spicy wet sock.  “Maybe it’s the neighbours,” I thought.  Then we walked in the house and a solitary Airwick candle was stuttering in the corner, trying desperately to find some clean oxygen to burn amidst the food smell.  It was so overwhelming, despite only being in the flat for three minutes, our clothes still stank when we got home five hours later.

One flat had been refurbished.  But they’d apparently done it on a budget of about £40.  They’d put carpet in the bathroom.  They’d put up a dirty lampshade.  They’d just painted over damp.  There was a three inch gap between the kitchen worktop and the wall.  They wanted £300,000 for it.

Another, we didn’t actually have the priveledge of seeing in real life, although I deeply regret that.  From the outside – I believe it’s called ‘kerb appeal’ – it looked alright. Inside it was… filthy.  Oh, and the washing machine was in the bathroom, next to a mountain bike and the fridge-freezer.  Yes.  The fridge-freezer.  “I’m just going to get some fish fingers and milk out of the bathroom.”

One flat we did see was so, so small, that you could sit in the lounge and reach in to the kitchen and bathroom from the couch.  Handy if you need to brew up while pooing and watching telly. Even the estate agent smiled and “small, isn’t ti?”  No shit, lady.  So why is it so fucking expensive?

Up-and-coming areas
When we started looking we had a very clear idea of where we wanted to live.  Crystal Palace or Forest Hill.  We know the areas, we like the areas.  There’s the right balance of smug independent coffee shops and farmers markets.  That’s where we want to live.  But then the area recommendations started.  Not just from estate agents, but from everyone.

“Have you tried Catford?” “Norwood Junction has great travel links.” “Beckenham is just down the road from Crystal Palace!” “What about Penge?”

What about Penge?  I don’t even know where it is?  Catford, we tried, but no.  You might be up and coming, but I’d rather you’d upped and come.  Beckenham might just be “down the road” from Crystal Palace, but it’s a really long road, and even my parents would be bored in Beckenham.  I’m not quite ready to retire…

Oh, and Norwood Junction train station might be the handiest station on earth, but Norwood Junction?  Wow. (Apologies if you live there.  Not for slagging it off, but I’m genuinely sorry.)

“Up-and-coming” just means “dump”.  I don’t want to live in a dump.  Despite, as one estate agent told us as she tried to force us to see a flat that looked like it was in downtown Syria, “you’ll live to regret it!”  Yes, threatening us will help sell property.

Sealed bids
You see a flat you like.  Not love, mind, just like.  It is on at “Offers In Excess Of…”  because we now operate in the Scottish property market, apparently.  You spend ages agonising over how much to bid.  You think you’ve offered too much – way more than it’s worth.  And then you convince yourself that you’ve got it.  You start decorating in your mind.  Then you start feeling awful that you’ve outbid everyone by tens of thousands and the estate agents are laughing at you.  You don’t get it.  Someone bid more than you.  You never found out how much.  You convince yourself it was a matter of pence.  You wish you’d bid more.

Property Websites
Primelocation and RightMove are the best and the worst when you’re house-hunting.  Looking to see what’s on the market?  Go online.  See something nice?  Contact the agent.  Going to see a flat?  Send your mum a link to the details so she can see it too.  The internet has changed our lives!  We’re living in the future!

Only none of the flats you see are available.  They haven’t been available for years.  They’re there as bait.  You call up the agent, “Hi, I would like to see the gorgeous two-bed new build you have advertised on Nice Looking Street.”  “I’m sorry, that flat is no longer available, but we do have this corrugated tin hovel on Stab Needle Alley that’s on at twice the price?”

And the worst thing about these website?  When you get bored of looking at one-beds in London, you see what’s available in the rest of the country.  Edinburgh?  A three bed maisonette in the City Centre.  Leeds? A two bed house.  Blackpool?  The Tower ballroom. It’s fucking depressing.

But, despite all this, and the fact that we’re more than likely in the middle of a property bubble and whatever we buy now will decrease in value over the next couple of years, we’re still looking.  Seeing a place tomorrow morning, in fact.  It looks nice in the details. The estate agent says they’ve already received offers on it, so we’re trying to work out how much over the asking price we should bid…  Balls.

Don’t Fear the Writer

It’s on the list. So there’s nothing I can do about it, other than get it done.  It’s number 15 – write a book. Gulp.

It’s been burning away inside me like syphilis for years. I only mention syphilis because I just saw a programme about it, and apparently it makes you burn up pretty spectacularly.  But I don’t have it. I don’t think anyway. Although I do get really hot in bed. And on the tube. Do I have syphilis? <goes online, types in symptoms, internet tells him he has cancer>

I’ve always loved writing.  I remember when I was about eleven years old, and we had our first ever “career” chat at school. Bearing in mind that back where I came from you either entered the Army or entered a prison as a career path, the options didn’t exactly seem wide open to me.  I can’t remember that chat – I’m sure it was suggested that I became a teacher (good holidays) – but I do remember going home that night and telling my mum I wanted to be a writer. Again, bearing in mind this was The North in the depressing late 80s, and my mum didn’t know many writers. Or, in fact, anyone who had ever actually moved out of the town we lived in. So her response of, “don’t be so bloody stupid – you want a proper job,” seems pretty reasonable.

Still, the want never left. Unfortunately, this isn’t the bit where I say “so from that day on, I typed. And I never stopped. And now, after my billion-selling series about a boy wizard I’m opening my own school for underprivileged kids who want to write.” This is the bit where I say, “and I still haven’t gotten round to it.”

I guess this is partly where the 36 at 36 has come from – my deep seated annoyance at having never accomplished the things I just assumed I would have done by now. One thing that I have accomplished, however, is the amazing ability to procrastinate like aboss. I look at other people who work in full time jobs and make short films in their spare time. Or have a successful YouTube channel, or run poetry workshops. That last one was a lie – I don’t even know what a poetry workshop is, let alone know someone that runs one. I’m not friends with people like that. I would sit at home, watching Sarah Beeny knocking down walls whilst pregnant thinking, ‘well I just don’t have the time to write a book/learn French/find out what a poetry workshop is – I work too hard and am too busy.’ Meanwhile a tiny voice in the back of my head is screaming, ‘YOU’RE NOT FUCKING BUSY, YOU’RE WATCHING SARAH FUCKING BEENY. IN FACT, I THINK I’VE EVEN SEEN THIS EPISODE BEFORE – THE COUPLE DON’T TAKE HER ADVICE AND END UP HAVING A REALLY SMALL BATHROOM.’  But no matter how loud that little voice screamed, I could just turn up the volume on the TV and ignore it.  But no more.

The 36 at 36 list has to be completed, and just around the corner is NaNoWriMo.  Which is a terrible acronym for National Novel Writing Month, which encourages you to scribble 50,000 words in a novel-shaped way in the 30 days of November.  50,000 words.  In 30 days.  I told a good friend that i was going to attempt this.  Her reaction? “You’re too busy to do that, babes.”  Well, you know what, yes I am, but so is everyone else who does it and yet they manage to, well, do it.  So I’m going to give it a go.  In two days time, November starts and so do I.  I’ve had a seed of an idea for book that I’ve tried to start writing on three separate occasions.  And every time, Sarah Beeny got in the way. And you know what, I might not complete 50,000 words, I might not finish it, and what I write might be utter, utter dog farts.  But it’ll be a start.  Wish me luck.

Oh, and in other news, I’m trying to drink my coffee with less sugar (gross) and am eating something called bircher muesli (looks gross, tastes nice).  And Sarah Beeny, I love you – it’s not your fault (it is).

Currently Engaged.

So, a funny think happened to me in Brussels a few weeks back. I got engaged! To be married! To a boy! For reals! I’m not sure why its taken me so long to fully process this information and write about it. But its a pretty fucking big deal if I’m honest. And I want to be honest, I really do.

So, let’s start off with some Brussels information. It’s a city. In Belgium? They speak French as well as some other form of language that sounds like hacking a toothpick out if your throat. But at least the French gives me an opportunity to whip out the three words I remember from my GCSEs, Monsieur. Yeah, you heard me.

But other than the above information, I had very little else to go on before I arrived. I knew about the chips and mayonnaise and the waffles. So they were on my list of things to do. Honestly – my expectations were so low, all I wanted to do was “drink a beer”, “eat chips” and “eat a waffle”.

I did all three things. Rather disappointingly, the waffle turned out to be of the sweet variety rather than the Birdseye Potato variety, but you know, you can’t have everything. The city itself subscribes to the “generic European city” sort of ethos. Lots of big old buildings and generic cobbled streets that make you think Jason Bourne is about to speed past in a Mini, snapping a policeman’s neck.

After walking around for the morning and ordering a bad sandwich – what I thought was going to be a roast beef sandwich turned out to be a raw beef sandwich. Raw minced beef. I ate my boyfriend’s cheese sandwich instead – after that we went back to our room for a well deserved nap. What? We were up early to get the train okay?

In the evening, Brussels becomes a different place – a way more fun place. For a start, there’s bands everywhere. The main square just has loads of live bands playing all evening. Brass bands wander the streets playing Queen tracks. We were sat outside a bar having a beer (tick) when a brass band set up in front of us and started playing. Within about ten minutes there was a crowd around them popping to oompah funk they were parping out. We walked down the same same street later and a guy had pulled up in an ice cream van fitted out with decks and speakers, and was pumping out some Whigfield-esque party tunes. Marvellous.  

So, anyway, me being me, I just wanted to carry to carry on getting drunk, and the fella wanted to go back to the hotel… So three large Jack’s later, I relented and we made our way back.  We ordered another drink at the bar (my idea, obviously) and took it back to our room, where, just moments later, HE ONY WENT AND FUCKING PROPOSED TO ME.

So I did the only courteous thing.  I giggled like a school girl sniffing poppers and said yes!  I’m getting married!  And you know when people say “it doesn’t feel any different”?  Well, they’re talking bollocks because it does and it’s AMAZING.  So as well as trying to achieve 36 things whilst being 36, I’m also getting married.  Hence number 11 on the list.  It’s going to happen on the 6th September next year.  You’re going to be with me along the way for all the fun that’s going to go in to organising it.  By “fun”, I obviously mean “horrible stress and possible crying”.

Can’t wait!

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The Final Countdown

This is it! Just a few hours until I turn 36, and such is my lack of motivation these days that I am yet to complete my list of 36 things to do in the next 12 months! So here goes…  Let’s see where we left things earlier:

1. Start writing a blog  – and update it every week.
2. Start a Vlog.
3. Visit a European city I’ve never been to.
4. Write a magazine/website column.
5. Run 10k.
6. Draw or paint a picture that I’m proud of.
7. Get a fucking six pack.
8. Learn to do a handstand.
9. Explore other career paths.
10. Buy a flat.

That’s not a bad start.   But it isn’t 36 things.  So let’s bulk it up a bit:

11. Get married (I’m cheating slightly – I’ll tell you later)
12. Start playing a new sport.
13. Learn a language.
14. Cook a 3 course dinner from scratch.
15. Write a book.
16. Make a speech.
17. Get (and stay) in touch with almost-lost friends.
18. Stop smoking.
19. Get a new tattoo.
20. Visit my family more.

There! 20 things to do on the list. 16 more to add over the course of the next year.  And the year begins very soon. In just over three hours in fact.  And for the first time I’m going to force myself to do these things by by showing it to the almost-dozens of people who follow me on Twitter.  One or more of them I’m sure I know in real life, and I’m sure will badger me on a semi regular basis.  So basically, I’ll have to rely on my own self-motivation.  Erk.

And so it begins – tomorrow I don’t become a new man, just a different version of the same person. Littledrinker v2. Or maybe I’m up to version 5.0 now, and people have been complaining for the last few versions that each update is incremental and they’ve not noticed any decent new features. Well this is it – this is the update you’ve been waiting for. The one that’ll have everyone queueing round the corner from midnight until I wake up, the one you’ll be happy to pay £45 to upgrade for. Wait – £45? That’s steep… Hmmm.  Maybe I’ll sleep on it.  See if I can live without the new apps and improved camera.

I’ll keep you posted.

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36 reasons to be old.

I’m 36 this year. I’ve doubled in age since turning 18, which is weird isn’t it? Then again 18 does seem like fucking ages ago now so maybe it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise. But I do constantly find myself being surprised by the fact I’m nearly 40 and have barely any idea a) his this happened and b) what I’m supposed to be doing – you know.  As a nearly-40-year-old.  IT’S ALL JUST A BIT CONFUSING.

So, as 36 hurtles at a frightening speed towards me, I decided to make a list.  A list of things I wanted to do during that one glorious year.  A list of things that, if accomplished, would make me a greater person.  A better man.  A more rounded individual.  And give me something to do.  I have a lot of energies to expend.

So.  A list.  A list for 36.  What to put on it?  Well, it may as well be 36 items long.  Why not?  Why not?  Well, because it transpires that thinking of 36 things to do is actually quite hard.  But I’m not 36 yet.  I’ve got a month until that happens.  So let’s begin with the list and see how we get on.

THE LIST BEGINS:

1. Start writing a blog  – and update it every week.
2. Start a Vlog.
3. Visit a European city I’ve never been to.
4. Try and get a magazine/website column.
5. Run 10k.
6. Draw or paint a picture that I’m proud of.
7. Get a fucking six pack.
8. Learn to do a handstand.
9. Explore other career paths.
10. Buy a flat.

See?  Not a bad start.  That handstand one is a bit random, ins’t it?  Still, onwards and upwards.

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